Heading into the new year, we’re bombarded with questions from family about why we’re still single. After a season of watching everyone get engaged around you and binging holiday rom-com, you’re ready to make a change in the new year.
Know that you are not alone in being unpartnered. An analysis of census data in 2019 found that nearly 4 in 10 adults ages 25 to 54 were neither married nor living with a partner.
So how do you kick off your new mantra about a new year and a new you? Give yourself the gift of confidence with these five tips.
You read that right. Start off the new year by dating yourself. Who says you need a partner for fun activities?
Stop waiting to find the right person to check things off your bucket list. Take yourself out, travel solo, go to that new movie, or dine out at that new restaurant you’ve been meaning to try.
Do exactly what you want when enjoying everything the new year has to offer and recognizing that you’re also a gift.
Take time to start a new hobby or learn something new. It will boost your overall happiness and your self-confidence. Here are a few ideas to help you get started:
Learn a new recipe or make an old family dish. Put on a baking competition show in the background to inspire you. The best part? You don’t have to share!
Whether you want to up-level your business acumen, learn more about mindfulness and meditation, grasp a new language, or understand interior design concepts, lessons on all this (and more!) are available at the click of a few buttons.
Remind yourself to accept and love who you are – practicing self-love can open you up to meeting the person you’re looking for. It might sound cliché, but it really does make a difference. Try helpful techniques like:
Whether it’s about your ideal partner, your dream job, or your health and fitness, the key to manifesting is in the details. Try saying what you want out loud or writing down all the qualities you’re looking for in a partner. Be as specific as possible! It’s all about knowing you deserve love and everything you envision for yourself in the future.
A vision board is like manifesting but involves creating a physical space to put your thoughts together. Try making a collage with magazine clippings, quotes, photos, or anything else that will motivate you to take steps to achieve your goals. If you prefer to go digital, consider creating Pinterest boards with different ideas.
Sometimes you just need to write it all out to help you process what you’re feeling. Getting it on paper (or even in a note on your phone!) truly helps. Read what you wrote and acknowledge that your feelings are completely valid.
Not thrilled about starting the new year alone? There are plenty of ways to surround yourself with others when you’re single!
Though getting a date is easier than ever thanks to dating apps, finding a successful, long-term relationship has only become more complex. Give yourself a gift that will keep on giving – relationship coaching!
Get confident with advice from experts who know relationships best. Your coach can help you:
These are just some of the everyday miracles relationship coaches work during their sessions.
A community is a great place to talk with others in a similar situation, seek support, share stories and words of advice, and give encouragement. It’s always helpful to have a supportive sounding board to process your feelings like the Heart Appeal Community.
Remind yourself that while it’s okay to be alone as you kick off the new year, you don’t have to feel alone. There are plenty of ways to boost your confidence, grow, and learn to love yourself.
Looking for extra support as you navigate this new year? We’re here to help. Take the next step to warm your heart and enrich your love life at Heart Appeal, Become a member, and start your new love story today!
Hi, I’m Raghed!
Founder and lead relationship coach at HeartAppeal.
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