Finding a Serious Relationship: Lessons from Love Is Blind

We’ve all heard the cliché about “love at first sight,” which implies that it’s possible to fall in love just by seeing someone. But what if we remove sight altogether? That’s the premise behind Love is Blind on Netflix.

The singles on the wildly popular series want to find love and a serious relationship. The only catch? They have to do it on camera. Oh, and they have to get engaged before ever seeing each other. Yep, you read that right! 

The Love Is Blind new series is available on Netflix, but if you haven’t seen any episodes yet, tread carefully! Spoilers ahead! 

What’s the Premise of Love Is Blind?

If you’ve never seen the show, here are a few basics you need to know:

• Contestants can’t see each other (at all!) during the 10-day dating phase and can only communicate with their dates via “pods.”

• The “pods” are small rooms that face each other. A glowing wall separates the daters while they talk and get to know their date. 

• A dater can propose to the person they connect with most at any time. And they only meet face-to-face AFTER getting engaged. Once they propose, they see each other for the first time.

• After the proposal and seeing each other for the very first time, they spend a week in paradise to build a physical connection. This just so happens to be where the couples meet everyone else they dated in the pods. What could POSSIBLY go wrong?

• In the last few weeks, the couples live in neutral living spaces back in their hometown (the current season of Love Is Blind on Netflix features daters living in Chicago), introduce their partners to family, and plan their weddings.

• Real-life friends and family come to the weddings to support the couple. Get your popcorn ready and see which couples say “I do” or “I don’t!” 

Why Is Love Is Blind on Netflix So Popular Right Now?

Social media’s abuzz over the Love Is Blind new season. We’re all just hopeless romantics, right? Okay, fine, we’ll be honest: We love a bit of drama, too!

With modern dating apps and the impacts of mindless swiping, dating anxiety is real. Even though Love Is Blind challenges dating app culture by eliminating swiping based on looks alone, the daters’ other insecurities come out play. Those of us navigating dating apps know: It’s common for daters to talk to multiple people at once, just like on the show.

And the idea of never really feeling confident the person you’re dating will be the one you end up in a serious relationship with makes the show very relatable. 

3 Lessons from Love Is Blind That Will Help You Find Love

Most of the Love Is Blind contestants genuinely want to get married and find love. But the Netflix series makes us wonder if love truly is blind. Can you fall in love with someone just by hearing their voice and building an emotional connection? 

Here are some lessons we’ve learned from watching Love Is Blind on Netflix:

Don’t overlook red flags when you desperately want a serious relationship.

When you’re tired of dating, it’s easy to look past red flags in the early stages, especially when you’re building an emotional bond with your date, like the Love Is Blind cast does in the pods. But where do you draw the line – what will you accept and what will you let slide? 

What might be obvious red flags for viewers are rationalized by the Love Is Blind daters as they get to know their potential partners in the pods. For example, Shayne reveals to Natalie that he continued to pursue another contestant even though they’d established a connection. Natalie told Shayne she felt misled, and he had a complete freak-out moment and almost quit the show. Spoiler alert: They got engaged anyway. (Ahh, love!)

This couple had their ups and downs throughout the show and were one of the most talked about pairs. But if Natalie hadn’t overlooked red flags about Shayne’s behavior early on, she might have avoided a blowout fight the night before their wedding and awkwardness at the altar. We thought Shayne looked a bit “on edge” at the wedding ceremony, to say the least. 

Avoid partners who emphasize physical traits over emotional traits. 

Stay away from any dater obsessed with how much you weigh. In the pods, Shake seemed to miss the entire point of this show. While chatting with Deepti in the pods, he asked if she’d like a man putting her on her shoulders at a concert.

After she replied yes, he said, and I quote, “Will I have trouble picking you up?”

“That comes off very superficial,” Deepti replied. 

We had to shake our heads at this actual Love is Blind quote. (Pun intended. And yes, we’re looking at you, Shake.) 

Not only did Shake ask multiple daters similar questions trying to find out their size, but he did this with Deepti after she was open with him about her body insecurities. If you’ve seen the show, you know that (spoiler alert!) they still got engaged. (Deepti might’ve needed to read the last lesson on overlooking red flags…) Shake then let everyone know how he wasn’t attracted to Deepti once seeing her in person.

Basically, steer clear of anyone who emulates shallowness over depth.

It’s possible to find love and a serious relationship without basing your decision on looks. 

Love Is Blind on Netflix sets out to prove that physical appearance doesn’t dictate whether you fall in love. Even though they hadn’t seen each other beforehand, six couples proposed. The show initially only planned to follow five couples but accommodated the extra relationship and admitted they were surprised how successful the pods were. 

On the season finale of the Love Is Blind new season, two of the original couples said “I do” at the altar. And two couples are still married now.

So did the ultimate dating experiment work? Yes! People fell in love without seeing each other first. Even though not everyone lasted, there were successes and plenty of lessons learned. 

Get Ready for a Serious Relationship and Find Love

Feeling inspired by the show and want your own Love Is Blind experience? Partner with a Heart Appeal relationship coach to find your next serious relationship. Whether you want to see your date first or not, we’ll be there every step of the way to help you find love. You deserve it! 

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